1st October 2020
The best advice that we can give is to remember that you cannot force your child to use a potty. If they are not ready, you will not be able to make them use it. In time, they will want to use one – most children will not want to go to school in nappies any more than you would want them to. More often than not, your child will guide you and give signals as to when they are ready to start trying. We have put together this handy guide to help parents.
When is a good time?
Most parents start thinking about potty training when their child is between 2 and 2 and a half, but there's no perfect time. Some parents find it easier to start in the summer when there are fewer clothes to take off and washed clothes dry more quickly.
Try potty training when there are no great disruptions or changes to your child's or your family's routine. It may take a couple of weeks for your child to get the hang of potty training, so if you can do this at a time when home life is consistent, this will really help. It's important to stay consistent, so that you do not confuse your child.
There are a number of signs that your child is starting to develop bladder control, and these will guide you as to when your child might be ready to start trying:
Potty training is usually fastest if your child is at the last stage before you start the training. If you start earlier, be prepared for a lot of accidents as your child learns. They also need to be able to sit on the potty and get up from it when they’re done, and follow your instructions.
Getting ready for potty training
Potty training is a completely new concept for your child, and so it’s useful to introduce the idea to them gradually.
Talk about your child's nappy changes as you do them, so they understand what wee and poo are and what a wet nappy means. If you always change their nappy in the bathroom when you're at home, they will learn that's the place where people go to the loo. Helping you flush the toilet and wash their hands is also a good idea.
Leave a potty where your child can see it and explain what it's for. Children learn by watching and copying. If you've got an older child, your younger child may see them using it, which will be a great help. It helps to let your child see you using the toilet and explain what you're doing. Using your child's toys to show what the potty is for can also help.
You could see if your child is happy to sit on the potty for a moment, just to get used to it, when you're changing their nappy, especially when you're getting them dressed for the day or ready for bed at night.
How to start potty training
Keep the potty in the bathroom. If that's upstairs, keep another potty downstairs so your child can reach the potty easily wherever they are. The idea is to make sitting on the potty part of everyday life for your child.
Encourage your child to sit on the potty after meals, because digesting food often leads to an urge to do a poo. Having a book to look at or toys to play with can help your child sit still on the potty.
If your child regularly does a poo at the same time each day, leave their nappy off and suggest that they go in the potty. If your child is even the slightest bit upset by the idea, just put the nappy back on and leave it a few more weeks before trying again.
Encouraging them to use the potty to wee will help build their confidence for when they are ready to use it to poo.
As soon as you see that your child knows when they're going to wee, encourage them to use their potty. If your child slips up, just mop it up and wait for next time. It takes a while for them to get the hang of it.
If you do not make a fuss when they have an accident, they will not feel anxious and worried, and are more likely to be successful the next time. Put them in clothes that are easy to change and avoid tights and clothes with zips or lots of buttons.
Your child will be delighted when they succeed. A little praise from you will help a lot. It can be quite tricky to get the balance right between giving praise and making a big deal out of it. Do not give sweets as a reward, but you could try using a sticker chart.
If you go out, take a potty or training seat with you, so your child understands that you'd like them to wee or poo in the potty every time they need to go. Check that other people who look after your child can help with potty training in the same way as you. This reinforces consistency. We are happy to work with parents on potty training, so please speak to your child’s key worker about it.
Potty training pants and pull-ups
Disposable or washable potty training pants (also called pull-ups) can be handy when you start potty training and can give children confidence when it's time to swap nappies for "grown-up" pants. They do not soak up wee as well as disposable nappies, so your child will find it easier to tell when they are wet.
Training pants should be a step towards normal pants, rather than a replacement for nappies. Encourage your child to keep their training pants dry by using the potty.
If your child is not ready to stop wearing nappies and it's hard for them to know when they've done a wee, you can put a piece of folded kitchen paper inside their nappy. It will stay wet and should help your child learn that weeing makes you feel wet.
The most important thing is not to confuse your child. Once you’ve made the switch to pants, stick with it. Don’t swap back and forth between nappies and pants. Send your child to nursery with spare pants, in case of accidents. We’re also happy to use sticker charts to help your child.
Night-time potty training
Focus on getting your child potty trained during the day before you start leaving their nappy off at night. If your child's nappy is dry or only slightly damp when your child wakes for a few mornings in a row, they may be ready for night-time potty training.
Ask your child to use the potty last thing before they go to bed and make sure it's close by, so they can use it if they need to wee in the night. There are bound to be a few accidents, so a waterproof sheet to protect your child's mattress is a good idea.
Just like daytime potty training, it's important to praise your child for success. If things are not going well, stick with nappies at night for a while longer and try again in a few weeks' time.
Using the toilet instead of the potty
Some children start using the toilet instead of the potty earlier than others.
A child's trainer seat that clips onto the toilet can help make your child feel safer and more confident on the toilet. A step for your child to rest their feet on gets your child in a good position for doing a poo.
If you have a boy, encourage them to sit down to pee. If they also need a poo, sitting down will encourage them to go.
Need help or have questions?
If you need any help or have any questions, speak to your child’s key worker, or Julie or Sam. Most of us have been through this ourselves and we may be able to help with ideas.
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